Generally, verbal self defense is a method used for preventing or calming down an aggravated situation before it escalates, potentially to the point of violence. In verbal self defense, the practitioner uses his or her words as a tool for keeping himself or herself emotionally secure and safe. This process employs specific word choices, tone of voice, body posture and language to deescalate the tension of the situation. This can involve taking a time out and separating the clashing parties, changing the topic to something less controversial, or making an effort to deflect conversation to other, less aggravated participants. Verbal self defense is a way of keeping your personal boundaries without becoming aggressive or violent. Read more »
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getting inside of the mind of a successful survivalist as well as the minds of the enemy.
Surviving TEOTWAWKI (The End Of The World As We Know It)
TEOTWAWKI is an acronym for The End Of The World As We Know It. Typically, this is conceived as a societal collapse, often due to economic collapse, war, massive natural disasters, or something else of an equivalent disruptive nature.
Chances are, even though large natural and man-made disaster will continue to occur and ruin some peoples lives in the process, TEOTWAWKI as some envision it (like a Mad Max movie( probably won’t ever happen. Therefor, it makes more sense to prepare for more likely risks to your health and safety, such as crime or natural disasters.
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Survival Psychology: The STOP Acronym and Surviving in the Wilderness

The stop Acronym was originally created as a helpful acronym for remembering what to do should you find yourself lost in the wilderness. However, it can be adapted for use as a tool whenever you are faced with a large obstacle that must be overcome for the purposes of your own survival. Planning in advance of any sort of potentially fatal situation is key. If you are in the wilderness, you should always pack a map of the area and a compass.
Stop and Sit: When you realize that you’re lost, faced with a difficult situation, or unsure of how to find your way past an obstacle, stop and take a moment to collect your thoughts. Take a deep breath.
Think: Take a mental inventory of your options before you make any moves and think about the possible repercussions of each of them. Prioritize your separate needs, such as attending to an injury before choosing a plan of action. If you need to go somewhere, recall if anyone knows where you will be if you don’t arrive back on a previously agreed upon time, especially if you are headed out into the wilderness or anywhere dangerous.
- A good example of the consequences of not doing this is illustrated in the movie “72 hours” starring James Franco (and based on a true story), in which the main character goes out into the middle of nowhere, doesn’t tell anyone beforehand, and later is forced to amputate his own arm when it gets stuck under a rock in order to escape. If he had told someone where he was going beforehand, he may have not needed to go to such extremes to survive.
Observe: This sort of goes along with the previous item, but what in your immediate area is noteworthy, useful for purposes of building a fire or shelter, or pose a risk? What is the weather like?
Plan: Once you have collected yourself and considered your options, you will create a plan of action for yourself and execute it. In going through this process and not resorting to panic, you have already done yourself a major favor. Read more »
Teamwork: Assessing Your Collective Skill-Sets
Some survival situations may find you working with a team of other people stuck in the same situation with you. If your team is made up of military men, this could be much easier for you (as they are more accustomed to the strict codes of conduct and procedures needed for war).
Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, skills and talents that can be used.
Brainstorm the various types of skills you might need for your current predicament, here’s a starting point -
- Combat/ability and willingness to kill stuff
- Knowledge of medical care/first aid
- Strategic planning/organizational skills
- Math/science/technology knowledge
- People skills/emotional intelligence/leadership/communication skills
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Self Defense and the Left-Handed Advantage in Combat
If you’re left-handed, you may have an advantage in hand-to-hand combat or a knife fight over the far more numerous right-handed people of world. While the left-handed minority adjust at an early age to live in a world designed for the right handed, the right-handed rarely, if ever, have to accommodate to left-handed situations and tools. In combat, this means that a right-handed combatant will generally have little experience fighting a left-handed combatant, while the left-handed combatant will likely be much more familiar with right-handed fighters. Simply put, a right-hander is just not expecting a mean left hook.
Source: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4073775.stm – “Left-handers ‘better in fights”
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Four Tips for Street Fighting Self Defense

A random fight on the street fight is not a good situation to be in. Perhaps a drunken or drugged out thug has it out for you for no good reason, it’s impossible to know whats going on inside the brain of another person. Maybe the attacker is sober and you just said the wrong thing to set him off, and now he wants to put you in a world of conflict.
It’s always preferable to deescalate an emotionally charged situation before it becomes violent, but some people can’t be reasoned with, and you need to defend yourself.
Here are some general tips to help you out:
- Keep your ego out of the situation, it will only cloud your judgement. There’s no need to break out fancy fighting moves to impress spectators, you aren’t an action star in a movie. I’ve heard that women seem to know this more instinctively than men, perhaps because they feel no need to demonstrate their fighting prowess and impress anyone.
- Your goal is not to “win” the fight, but to keep yourself alive and safe. If you manage to land a blow on the attacker long enough to distract him or knock the wind out of him, that’s your opportunity to make a quick exit from the scene. , Even if you did not initiate the fight, you could find yourself in court if you injure your opponent excessively or unnecessarily. Avoiding injury is the real victory here.
- Understandably, most people get flustered and apprehensive in a physical altercation. Some freeze up totally and don’t act quickly enough to protect themselves or not at all. To help combat this apprehension, remember that just as you may not know what your opponent is capable of, your opponent probably doesn’t know what you are capable of, either. He is not invincible,he has weaknesses just like every other person on the planet. For all he knows, you have a black belt in Karate or teach Krav Maga to senior citizens at the YMCA on weekends.
- You can fight dirty. This isn’t a boxing match or a martial arts tournament, you aren’t bound by a code of conduct. If you must, pull his hair, poke him in the eyes, kick him so hard in the crotch that his eyes roll back into his head. Bite and scratch. This isn’t about honor, this is about protecting yourself from an attacking jack-ass.
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Self Defense and the Psychology of an Attacker
While it’s important that you be prepared to defend yourself physically if the threat of physical altercation presents itself, it’s usually much smarter and more effective to try to avoid these dangerous situations in the first place.
An attackers will often be stronger and larger than his planned target and possibly armed and/or working with an accomplice or two. Plus, he has the element of surprise. These variable conditions make physically fighting an attacker a futile effort (not that you shouldn’t still try).
When planning an attack on the victim, the attacker has 3 factors to consider:
- Desire to attack: Many physical altercations occur because of the escalation of tension already existing between people. Eventually someone gets mad enough to physically attack the other party. If you are in such a situation with escalating tensions, you should make every effort to deescalate the tension. You must keep a cool head and not throw wood on the fire. If you detect a verbal conflict arising, never raise your voice, never make insults, and never make rude gestures. Be polite and get the hell out of there. These situations are not the source of many attacks, however, such as in the case of a robbery. Also, unprovoked rapes and murders do occur. Yet, there is still a reason for the attack, even if it is not logical.
- Distance from victim: In order to be the victim of an attack, the attacker needs to be close enough to you to actually harm you. If you find yourself in a place with few people, you should keep as much distance between yourself and a suspected attacker as possible. If you are approached by a stranger while alone, tell him to keep his distance from you. If he refuses, this is a very bad sign and you should try to get away from this person as fast as you can. No well-intentioned, innocent person will approach you when asked to keep a distance from you. Essentially, if you do not let a potential attacker to get close to you, he will be unable attack you. Also keep an eye out for spots where attackers could hide and keep a distance from them.
- Decision to attack: In addition to having a desire to commit an attack and physical proximity to the victim, the attacker must actually decide to go through with the attack. The attacker may make a hasty decision to attack in anger, in which all you can do is try to deescalate the situation before it gets physical. However, when planning an attack intellectually and not just running off pure emotion, he will likely plan an attack in a way that it is most likely to succeed. He doesn’t want to get caught if it can be avoided. Thus, you want to appear to be an unappealing target to potential attackers. The best way to do this is to practice being aware of your surroundings, not fiddling with your phone or iPod. Should you spot someone acting suspiciously while walking down the street and paying close attention to your surroundings, cross the street or put some other obstacle between yourself and the potential attacker to communicate your awareness. The potential attacker will probably wait for a target they perceive to be easier to take.
Another way you can look at these three factors is as the means, motive, and opportunity to attack.
If your gut feeling is that something is very wrong with your present situation, heed it and get the hell out of there. If this is not possible, then you must employ physical self defense. However, awareness of your surroundings and precaution are always the most important and effective tools you can use to protect yourself from assault.
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The 4 F’s of Survival

For any species, there are 4 basic, primal needs that must be met in order to survive and prosper. These are the 4 F’s -
- Fight
- Flight
- Feed (eat)
- Fornicate (mate)
In the psychology of survival, it is important to understand how each of these basic instincts inform the decisions of both you, your allies, your enemies, predators and prey.
In any confrontation, an organism must assess the situation and decide whether to fight or flee. In economics you might call it a cost-benefit analysis. If a creature feels it is in danger, unlikely to defeat an opponent, it will likely flee (unless forced into corner). If the organism has something to gain from defeating an opponent (such as a meal, an opportunity to mate, or protect one’s territory) and thinks there is a good chance of being victorious, it may choose to fight.
Every living thing requires sustenance. A starving predator may attack prey it usually avoids if it means getting a meal.
Every living thing also has an instinct to reproduce on some level, so this instinct plays a role in decision making as well. Read more »
Survival Psychology: Stress

People experience stress or perceive events/things as threats when they believe they lack the personal resources to cope with the obstacle at hand (stimuli, people, situations). When we think the demands being placed on us are more than we can provide, we feel stress.
Stressful events can test our ability to adapt and be flexible. it can stimulate us to do our best. It’s normal to experience stress, but too much is bad for you. Too much stress will take a toll on people. Too much stress will lead to feelings of distress. This distress will create uncomfortable tension that people try to avoid.
Here is a list of indicators of distress you may find in yourself or others when faced with an unhealthy level of stress:
- Difficulty making decisions
- Anger outbursts
- Forgetfulness
- Nonstop worrying
- Low physical/mental level of energy
- Difficulty getting along with others
- Increase in number of mistakes being made
- Social withdrawing from others
- Shirking responsibilities
Stress is a part of live and can help motivate us into action, but we cannot exist in a state of high stress for long periods of time without expecting repercussions to our mental and physical health. The survivor is the person who works with his of her stresses instead of being paralyzed by it. Read more »
